When we were unschooling, dreaming about trips, researching and planning, finding ways to be creative with the budget and see more while spending less all added up to learning for and from real life activities that served our family’s goals.
We learned and explored together.
Now that Dale has flown the nest, we still like to dream and discuss trips. We still try to find time to travel and go exploring together even though it might require more creativity than it used to: partial trips, meeting up en route, or negotiating who does what.
Reflection is looking clearly and honestly at oneself to take responsibility for your actions, words, thoughts deeds, or undeeds.
Reflection is a critical component of learning and success for parents, teachers, leaders and self-directed learners. It helps you learn critical metacognitive skills.
Reflection requires you to pay attention, to listen and to be honest. It differs from pure introspection in that it assumes you will take action and that you are looking not only at yourself but at how you affect others.
Instead of blaming, making excuses or saying you just didn’t like something, you take ownership of your emotions, actions, and contribution to situations.
You move from “they” thinking to “I” thinking which allows you to stop being a victim or giving away your power. You must be courageous enough to own your #%*! and not reject, deflect, or blame.
It needs to be a daily, sometimes hourly choice.
It’s worth it.
This reflective practice, that you do each day with all your interactions, is where the personal meets political. Where you walk your talk. Where you have the chance to “be the change you want to see in the world.”
On a daily basis reflect on what YOU have done and ask:
Did I do what mattered?
Did I show up fully and take responsibility?
Did I live and act according to my values?
Did I model what I want to teach?
Did I pay attention and listen?
Did I make a positive contribution?
What could I have done differently to improve a situation for myself or for others?
What do I need to change ?
How can I change my behavior?
What are my next steps to improve, build, or change what I can?
If you are a parent, teacher or leader you have the chance to model asking these questions and practicing reflection.
Teaching by example is the most powerful form of teaching.
You can show how to take responsibility and reflect for those who look up to you.
Please, practice reflection. Take responsibility. Pass it on.
I don’t have time for chores – how do I fit them in?
How do you homeschool and get housework done?
How do you get kids to help with housework?
How did you get Dale to help?
These are common questions from parents whether kids are in school or not.
I also hear from young adults out on their own for the first time who struggle with chores.
Being able to manage cooking, cleaning, and laundry is a valuable life skill. You are golden if you learn to manage these basics in way that is consistent, frees your mind and supports you as you learn, work and play.
Just so you don’t get the wrong idea, I really, really don’t like spending my time and energy on household chores. I am not a housekeeping “natural”. Like most things, I learned, and keep re-learning, the hard way.
It’s easy to get snowed under if you don’t have a system. Once you have CHAOS, or as Flylady says, Can’t Have Anyone Over Syndrome, it can be overwhelming. There were a few periods, like the year I was in neck and wrist braces, that I hired help. Hiring help is great if you can afford it. But you still need some basic systems in place for all the other days when help is not available.
In August 2012 I wrote N is for Networkas I thought about the most important aspects of learning beyond school. I just watched Deb Mills-Scofield speak at #BIF 9 about the power of networks. Thank you BIF for Live Stream for those of us who must be at home.
I got to meet Deb when I was at #BIF7 and have learned so much from being connected with her on twitter. She is a master networker, among her many other accomplishments.
After listening to her speak, I realized I need to add more than the new graphic to the letter N. I will also add the inspiration and advice from Deb-Mills Scofield on the stage at #BIF9
The broader, deeper and more diverse your network is, the more impact you can have on the world. …The power of a network is to share it. Share your network with others… Be intentional. Ask questions and have conversations… Go and create a RCUS, random collisions of unusual suspects and don’t stop.
How can you bring more diversity to your network?
Go make some new connections and tell me about it in the comments. Lisa
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